What Do You Do When You Feel Overwhelmed or Conflicted?

In last month’s blog, I talked about 4 Steps to Rising ABOVE Conflict. This month I’m introducing the first R in the Seven Biblical Principals to Rising Above Conflict to Make Peace and Transform Relationships.

The First R: RELY ON A HIGHER POWER, guides you to turn to a source that is greater than you for help when you’re feeling overwhelmed or conflicted.  In Colossians 3:1-2 Paul says to, “Set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” And, David wrote a beautiful song for the Lord when he was delivered from the hands of his enemies which are written in Psalm 18:2 “My God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.”

What Does Rely on a Higher Power Mean? Relying on a higher power is putting faith in something greater and bigger than you. It means turning to the creator for help, guidance, healing, and restoration in your life. You were created by God. He knows you better than anyone. He knows what’s in the highest good for you and all concerned. When you surrender your will to His will and trust in Him, He will take care of you. When you set your heart and mind above, not on earthly things but of what is good and pure and take refuge in the Lord, you can rise above the conflict and overwhelm. God can give you the strength to get through the storms. His wisdom, guidance, and grace will bring you through the trials and tribulations of life. He will protect you and deliver you from your enemies. He will love you, pick you up when you fall; heal you, and change in you what you cannot change, and make you new.

How Do You Rely On a Higher Power? You rely on a higher power by opening up your heart and inviting the Spirit of God to come inside and work in you. Only the ONE that created you can work in you and through you for your highest good and the good of others. As the Holy Spirit works inside of you, He changes you from the inside out. He gives you a new heart and a new mind. He creates a paradigm shift in your reality. Stephen Covey talks about a paradigm shift in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

Our paradigms represent how we view the world. What we see isn’t a completely accurate reflection of reality; it is shaped by our attitudes and perceptions. A paradigm shift occurs when our paradigms change, allowing us to see the world in new light. In other words, you can’t resolve conflict or heal an issue by staying in the same place that created it. You have to shift it. For instance, if you’re feeling angry, conflicted, and or overwhelmed, you can’t obtain peace and feel conflicted at the same time. You must change the feelings in your heart. That’s easier said than done, right? How well I know from my own experiences in life. A simple way to change the feelings in your heart is by creating a paradigm shift in your reality. Practice viewing the situation or the person you are frustrated with from a new light. One way to do this is by inviting the Holy Spirit into your heart, into your relationships, and or into your life so that He can work “in” you to change you. Here’s a simple tip for inviting the Holy Spirit into your heart.

Tip for Inviting the Holy Spirit into Your Heart

  1. Practice applying the 4 Steps to Rising Above Conflict which are,

          Step 1: Be Aware of How You Feel.

          Step 2: Step Out of the Overwhelm.

         Step 3: Make a Choice to Change Your Attitude.

         Step 4: Seek Higher Ground. 

2. Take a few deep breaths in and exhale. Let go of all tension and stress.

3. Simply invite the Holy Spirit, Jesus, Creator, or whatever it is for you, to be present               inside of you. Here’s a simple prayer. “Lord, please come into my heart, mind, and spirit                and change in me what I cannot change in myself, in my situation, and in the other person.                Guide me in what to do or say. Give me hope, help me to forgive, show me peace.  Bless me that I     may see the situation and or the other person through your eyes; through eyes of compassion,           forgiveness, grace, mercy, understanding, and love. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.”

As the Holy Spirit works in you, you will begin to see with new eyes and your paradigm will shift. This will enable you to rise above the circumstance, the conflict, the suffering and the pain so you can move towards healing, forgiveness, peace, resolution, reconciliation, and love. Relying on God’s love and strength to shift your paradigm empowers you. Allowing fear, worry, anger, and blame to continue to rule your heart, dis-empowers you. God has shifted my paradigm countless times and He has healed me, delivered me, forgiven me, and empowered me over and over again. Here’s my personal testimony of how I relied on God’s strength to get me through a difficult time in my life.

Read about My Personal Testimony in Practicing the First R: Rely on a Higher Power

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